Go Ahead And Have The Fight
Posted by Joe Dempsey on 4/22/2009
Poor Ivan… You got to feel for the guy. In Art, all he wants to do is just have dinner with his friends. Is that so much to ask?
I keep bouncing between two mindsets about him:
1: He wants so badly for everybody to get along and that’s a beautiful thing. Life shouldn’t be so hard. Why go creating more problems when there are so many already? Your friends are one of the few gifts in life, so treasure them.
2: Stop being such a friggin’ doormat and stick up for yourself. You are being run roughshod over by these 2 supposed friends of yours. Stand up to them. You’re the only sane one. Smack them down!
It’s a constant battle in my life, trying to find that balance: stand up for yourself but don’t be an asshole. Be easy-going and flexible but don’t be a doormat.
As I’ve painfully learned in life, when you’re dealing with a thorny issue, most times it’s better to just go ahead and have the fight. All the time and energy you spend trying to avoid difficult discussions, suppress your true feelings or not hurt someone else’s would be better spent just dealing with the problem at hand, uncomfortable though it may be.
And yet, I love Ivan. These are his best friends and they are tearing themselves and him apart. Why can’t we all just get along? Oy…